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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
Let me introduce you to our today's guests.
He has a beautiful smile.
- Kim Jong Min! - Hello!
(Kim Jong Min, the cheerful fool)
She has a more beautiful smile. June Kang!
(June Kang, the free wife)
An even more beautiful smile? What do you think?
She always smiles happily. Byul!
(Byul, the most supportive wife)
She has a refreshing smile. Song So Hee!
(Song So Hee, the traditional Korean music fairy)
And Lee Sang Jun!
It seems that you and your husband have become more affectionate.
- Really? - You posted many lovely photos...
of you and your husband...
- recently. - That's right.
Yes.
We've been married for 25 years.
Now, we're more relaxed than before.
We can understand each other more, so we're enjoying life together.
We've fought enough. So we're just happy now.
Look at that photo.
I was talking about photos like this.
She looks so pretty.
(The couple with good chemistry like best friends)
- Look at this one. - They look like best friends.
Look at this.
Choi Min Soo...
looks like a meek lamb in that photo.
(The tough guy looks like a meek lamb when he's with her.)
Sang Jun... I'm sorry. I...
- Dong Yeob... - Yes.
- has a cold. - I have a cold.
We'll send him home now.
Anyway, Sang Jun...
Why did you come in that condition?
Seriously.
(When will I get to speak?)
- Sang Jun... - Are you here for the viewers...
(She's making a point.)
or for money? Tell me.
- For the viewers. - Right?
- I knew it. - I'll just say it as he's unwell.
To be honest,
I've been following her although I met her for the first time here.
- You're following June? - Yes.
I'm so envious of her happy marriage...
that I want to get married soon...
whenever I visit her social media site.
- Thank you. - You're not married?
Pardon me?
That was unexpected.
(I haven't gotten married yet.)
But Sang Jun, on comedy shows,
you've played many characters...
- who are sarcastic about women. - That's right.
Many people think...
- you're a bad guy, right? - Yes.
I'm nothing like my characters in real life.
I can't even talk to a woman...
- that I meet for the first time. - Really?
Why is it difficult?
I feel a little bit shy.
I once worked at a convenience store.
When a female customer came,
I couldn't ask if she needs a bag.
- Really? - I was too shy.
- "Do you need a bag?" - Yes.
I couldn't bring myself to say, "Do you need a bag?"
- So what did you do? - I quit my job there.
Because of that?
- Have you been married for 7 years? - Yes. It's been 7 years.
- Exactly. - What's your secret to taming Haha?
First of all, I...
(Hesitating)
I'm not even sure if he's tamed now.
- He's still in the process. - So...
What's the biggest problem that is hard to fix?
- What could it be? - It's always been the same thing.
It's alcohol.
- I see. - He drinks too much.
- Other issues... - I drink every day
Whom did he drink with recently?
Recently, he...
- Who? - Recently...
He hosted a TV show with Dong Yeob not long ago.
He called me to say he'd drink with Dong Yeob after the show.
- He went home late that day, right? - He came home really late.
What's written on Dong Yeob's shirt tells how you felt that day.
Right.
(Why does it look like a swear word?)
Obviously, it's just a number. It doesn't have any implication.
- All right. So Hee... - It's just a number.
- is like the mascot... - Is this your first time here?
- Yes. - of our show.
The song she sang before can resolve all the problems.
(Throwing a tantrum is pointless)
(Dancing)
Right. This song can resolve any kind of problem.
("The Song of Peace" sung by Song So Hee)
(Throwing a fit is pointless)
(Just relax)
(Stop worrying!)
- That was beautiful. - She sings so well.
We have three stories as always.
- Show us the keywords please. - All right.
These are the three keywords. "His Life-Risking Hobby".
"The Horrible Newlywed Life". "Mom, I Miss You".
"Mom, I Miss You".
Hello.
- He's so cute. - I'm a 15-year-old girl...
who misses her mom so much.
She's laughing hard.
- What are you looking at? - How does he make that voice?
- Exactly. - It's interesting.
My friends say they hate to hear their moms nagging the most.
But I wish I could hear my mom nagging at me, at least.
It's because I rarely see my mom.
"You'll come to the demonstration class tomorrow, right, Mom?"
"Make sure to come."
"Oh, no. It slipped my mind. I can't go there. I have to work."
"But you didn't forget about the trip this weekend, right?"
"Gosh. I forgot about that too."
"I can't go on a trip with you. I have work to do."
My mom works at a supermarket on weekdays from morning to evening.
She works as a singing tutor after work.
On weekends, she travels across the country to do volunteer works.
Therefore, whenever I needed my mom,
I was alone.
When I had a tonsillectomy...
"Oh, my daughter, you're awake now."
(I hope she didn't say what I'm thinking.)
"Now that you're awake, I'll go to work."
Am I really my mom's daughter?
What makes me upset the most... "Mom,"
"I have a worry. I had a fight with my friend earlier today."
"I said I was tired!"
"When do I get to sleep if I listen to you too?"
I don't have enough time to talk to her because she's always tired.
My mom puts her work before me.
Please stop her.
(Please stop my workaholic mom.)
- Jong Min is a workaholic too. - Yes.
- What do you think? - I'm actually worried.
- About whom? - Myself.
- You're worried about yourself? - Yes.
- Because you work too much? - I think I'm a workaholic.
Yes, you are.
When I wake up, it's morning.
- I know what it feels like. - And then I wake up next morning.
I find myself getting ready...
and leaving for work while thinking, "What am I doing?"
- I'm glad you're single. - Why?
It's okay because he's single.
- So I think... - Don't worry.
- Your wife will be happy about it. - She's right.
Really?
(Jong Min is confused.)
So Hee, weren't you busier than your mom when you were in middle school?
My mom worked a lot too.
She always busy even though she's a full-time housewife.
She's always been busy with work,
so we haven't had many chances to have a conversation.
But fortunately, I was busy too.
- That's fortunate. - Right.
And my dad filled her absence.
- So did my little sister. - That's a relief.
So I didn't have any worries like hers,
but I understand why she's worried.
I see. Now, let's meet our guest. Please come out.
(Who has a hard time because of her workaholic mom?)
(Kim Do Yi)
- She's cute. - She's pretty.
Hello, I'm Kim Do Yi. I'm 15 years old,
and I'm from Hoengseong, Gangwon Province.
Welcome.
Her name is Kim Do Yi. She's very pretty.
- Exactly. - She's so pretty...
- and charming. - She has such a small face.
My gosh. Her face looks even smaller because she's next to me, right?
I was about to say the same thing.
How bad is your mom's work addiction...
- from your perspective? - Tell us everything.
- You can tell us anything. - Should I speak casually to her?
- You can speak as you like. - Should I...
- Just don't swear. - I see.
So...
It feels like my mom is stuck in a black hole...
called work.
"A black hole called work"?
Yes. Other kids' moms...
- have only one job, but my mom... - Most of them do.
- has three different jobs. - I see.
So... On weekdays,
from 7:30am to 7pm,
she works at a supermarket as a sales promotion manager.
Oh, she's a sales promotion manager.
She comes home around 11pm when there's a promotional event.
If not, she wash dishes...
or wait tables at a restaurant.
- She works at a restaurant too? - Yes.
- She lives her life to the fullest. - 2 or 3 times per week,
(Wasn't that all?)
from 7:30pm to between 10pm and 11pm,
she teaches elderly people how to sing as a tutor.
- She's a singing tutor. - Yes.
- I see. - She works a lot.
Does she have free time on weekends?
On weekends, she has trot gigs...
- She's a trot singer? - around the country.
She goes home at 10pm or 11pm on weekdays...
and goes out even on weekends. When do you see your mom?
I see her briefly in the morning before I go to school.
When I can't see her in the morning,
I wait until late night to see my mom.
- You wait for her to come home? - Yes.
- That's so sad. - It's sad, and I think...
she's so sweet. Teenagers at her age...
- They don't miss their parents. - wish their parents weren't home.
- "I want to be alone at home." - That's right.
It's normal for a teenage girl.
They say that eating together is important for a family.
Family members bond with each other over meals through conversations.
When was the last time you ate with your mom?
It's been over a year.
(I want to eat with my mom.)
I think you could understand your mom...
since she's working hard for your family.
But she always puts her work before me.
- You can see that. - Yes.
My mom and I planned to go on a trip...
to Gangneung for the first time in a really long time.
But she said...
she forgot she was scheduled to have a gig.
- So she cancelled our trip. - Did she cancel it?
It's hard to understand.
There was a demonstration class at school one day.
Every student's parents attend it.
- At least one of the parents. - That's right.
My mom said she would come.
I was excited. I was waiting for her to come so eagerly.
But suddenly, my mom called me to say,
"Do Yi, I'm sorry."
"Something came up at work. I'm sorry."
So she couldn't come.
How did you feel?
I was...
- very upset. - Of course.
It's embarrassing because the other kids' parents are there.
Were you also embarrassed?
- Kids say you don't have a mom. - I was more upset than embarrassed.
- You were upset. - You see...
She wouldn't have waited for her mom if she had known she wouldn't come.
Her mom promised she'd come and broke the promise.
Did you tell your mom about it?
Yes, I told my mom, but I only made her angry.
- What did she say? - Was she angry?
"I couldn't go there because of work."
"I didn't forget about it intentionally."
How about the other family members? Do you have any siblings?
There are my dad and my big brother who is in 10th grade.
- You have an older brother? I see. - Yes. But my older brother...
stays in the school dormitory.
- He's not living with you. - That's right.
Since my dad is a bus driver,
- he finishes work at 9pm or 10pm. - He comes home late too.
And he leaves for work between 5am and 6am.
- Whom do you talk to? - Exactly.
I usually talk to our two dogs.
- Her dogs are her friends. - She must feel lonely.
She feels her mom's absence greatly.
Her mom must feel heavyhearted. Hello, ma'am.
- Hello. - Welcome.
She greeted cheerfully.
She must've watched Hello many times.
Do you understand why your daughter is worried?
Any double-income couple wouldn't think that's a worry.
But ma'am, it's too much.
- Do Yi says you're a workaholic. - Exactly.
You even work on weekends.
Our family isn't financially well off,
and we have difficulties.
So I think I should work hard.
I do any kind of work I can do and work as hard as I can.
- You have a lot of jobs. - Yes.
Is there any reason to have that many jobs at the same time?
We have some debt because my husband's business failed,
so we're going through financial hardship.
Also, I was raised in a poor family...
as the youngest among eight children.
I think I should earn a lot of money.
And I don't want my children to go through the same difficulty.
Do Yi, did you hear your mom?
She says she can't stop working because of the financial status.
I know that,
but except for her work at the supermarket...
When she has a performance,
it's either volunteer work, or she doesn't get paid.
(She volunteers her talent or performs without pay.)
She performs for free.
(She performs...)
(for free?)
It's not for money then.
Aren't you doing it for your own enjoyment?
I believe my performance makes the elders happy.
(She does it to make the elders happy.)
Because I am an unknown artist,
- I work as "Song A". - "So Hwa"?
"Song A".
- "Song A". - "Song A".
- "Song A". - Yes.
Hoengseong is known for it's beef,
- so I named myself "Song A". - It means "calf".
That's why I got that stage name.
That's so cute.
She's like Kim Gook Jin.
I am Song A from Hoengseong.
- Her name reflects the word "calf". - Calf.
When you are an unknown singer,
there are more times when you have to pay to perform...
than times when you get paid to perform.
- You pay to perform at events? - Is it like a donation?
We usually pay to perform at events.
So you are spending money.
(She can't understand her mom.)
For your children...
Since you didn't receive much love growing up,
don't you want to give your children as much love as you can...
as their parent?
Have you never come across that thought?
I know how she feels about it.
I thought she would understand me first.
So hearing what she said...
- hurt my feelings. - But she's...
- She's only in 8th grader. - She's a baby.
When my sons were little...
When they turned 12, 13,
I thought they would understand my feelings...
in my situations.
But they didn't.
Even though I didn't mean it that way, the children...
- I think I understand. - accepted things differently.
And you see,
it's not common for a young daughter...
to want to spend more time with her mother.
- It's not common. - Of course.
Especially at her age.
- You should be grateful. - She might rebel.
- Right. - We've only just met her,
but from the way she talks, I can tell that...
she's much more mature than other kids of her age.
That's why her mother thinks she is mature...
and that she would understand her.
But she's still too young inside.
(She's still a young child.)
She was so excited about going on a trip.
- A trip to Gangneung. - The trip.
Why did you cancel the trip?
My friend's restaurant was short of hands.
She had nobody to help her.
That's why I broke the promise and went to my friend's restaurant.
It helps us financially.
I thought we could go on a trip another time.
She can only go on that trip once at this age.
There was a demonstration class, but you didn't make it.
I couldn't go because of work.
I was in Chungju at the time.
I finished work late and then went home.
(Why are you working so much?)
She was crying when I got home.
While working, didn't you...
think that your daughter would be waiting for you?
When I work, I only care about work.
I couldn't think about my daughter.
Do you try to spend...
a lot of time talking to your daughter?
We never get to talk face to face.
When I send her a message and ask her where she is,
she says she's at home.
Then I say okay. That's all.
(She doesn't realize how serious the situation is.)
- Is the boy next to you your son? - Yes.
- He's her son. - Have you felt sad...
because your mom is always so busy?
Because she's always been very focused on work,
I don't even feel sad anymore.
Has she broken any promises she made to you?
She's broken so many promises.
Now...
I don't make any promises with her.
Never?
(They lost all the faith in their mother.)
Your little sister told us what she's been through.
Have you been through the same things then?
Did she miss all your demonstration classes too?
In six years of my elementary school life,
she was in my school...
for less than 10 minutes.
I once cried because I felt so sad about it.
He cried too.
(Her son cried too.)
The summer break season is nearly over,
but you did have a break. You must've been at home then.
- Did you not see her? - I had 28 days of break.
But I saw my mom for less than seven days.
And even when she came home, she came home in the early morning.
When she came home late, I saw her briefly.
It lasted less than 5 minutes. And even in those 5 minutes,
she was so tired that she kept dozing off.
So you never got to have a sound conversation with her.
She prioritizes work over everything else.
When do you realize that?
I once got a surgery on my nose.
And only my grandmother came to visit me.
(They can't stand her anymore.)
When I asked her why she didn't visit me at the hospital,
she said she was busy working at the grocery store.
We only talked for 10 seconds too.
She didn't visit you and talked to you on the phone for 10 seconds.
Does your father also prioritize work over family...
and has no time to take care of the children?
Yes.
Did you know how sad...
your son has been?
He's really sad about it.
But still, I thought my children would understand me.
But you haven't even asked your children about it.
You never asked if they can understand you.
You only kept it to yourself.
My goodness.
Have you missed any important events?
I'm sure you went to the graduation ceremonies. Right?
I didn't get to go.
(It's not a paused video.)
Did you think he would understand that too?
Right. I thought they would understand it as my family.
Did you miss the elementary or the middle school graduation?
I missed both.
(It's not a paused video again.)
It's praiseworthy that you work hard for your family,
and it's not that we don't understand you.
My mother worked in insurance for a long time...
for her four children.
But she still attended my elementary school,
middle school, and high school graduation ceremonies.
She didn't come because I told her for days.
I think she wanted to make sure that she was there.
It made me really happy.
Couldn't you take that day off?
But whenever there is something important,
an unexpected event happens.
(Isn't it the lack of will?)
You miss your mother so much.
Who do you talk to about your concerns...
and about your feelings?
Who do you talk to?
Do you talk to your friends? Who do you talk to?
I talk to my two puppies.
You talk to your puppies?
You only talk to your puppies.
Do you not talk to your friends?
When I tell my friends,
they might...
This is only my thought. But they might pity me.
- Right. Right. - You don't like that.
- So I... - It's not easy to talk about.
I talked to the things at home.
- To the things. - Yes.
I talked to fish and squid.
I talked to clams, and I had a deep conversation with hairtails.
Then you ate all those friends.
I talked to all kinds of fish.
(Yeong Ja is funny.)
Let's bring in the two puppies that comforted her...
and became friends to her.
- Let's meet them. - Really?
Lime, Hime.
- Lime, Hime. - There they are.
My goodness.
They are coming.
They are so cute.
They are cute.
(Hello.)
Here. Lime.
- That's Lime. - Do they bite?
Look.
(Hello.)
He's sensitive.
(He's very active.)
Does he bite then?
Yes.
Is Lime the sensitive one?
- No, he's Hime. - Hime.
She's his mother.
- Hello. - She's his mother.
- She's the mother. Son. - And he's the son.
The mother is smaller.
- What's happening here? - He's a dog,
and he's always with his mom.
She would feel even sadder.
When you come home from school,
they must run to you.
- They must be excited. - How do you talk to them?
(How do you talk to the dogs?)
- Lime. - Hime. Lime.
(They behave.)
Hello.
How cute.
It's as if they understand her.
I fought with my friends today.
You talk to them about those things.
- But... - Oh, dear.
Talking to them about these things...
My goodness.
She's not a good actress, is she?
- She must feel really sad. - Of course.
It must've reminded her of that time.
My goodness.
(They are the only ones who listen to her stories.)
(What she needs is attention and love.)
(Her sincerity makes everyone emotional.)
- My goodness. - If you keep thinking...
only about the sad things, it won't get any better.
Just be fun.
"Hime, Lime, I fought with my friends today."
Show them their photos. "This is her. Go bite her."
(Dong Yeob is funny.)
Because of Lime and Hime,
she was able to go through that time.
(Right.)
He's upset.
He's speaking for her.
Did you talk a lot about your mom to them?
- Yes. - You...
Hime, you must be happy that your mom is with you.
She must be jealous.
She's jealous of dogs.
(She's jealous of her dogs.)
- Did you... - Yes?
talk to them when your trip...
was cancelled?
- What did you say? Tell us. - What did you say?
"I was supposed to go on a trip with Mom,"
"but Mom's busy."
"Do you want to go for a walk?"
(Do you want to go for a walk?)
(Yes.)
(She feels upset.)
- Goodness. - She remembers to walk the dogs.
Your daughter... Like you said earlier...
Her brother is crying too.
Do you understand your sister?
- Have you seen this before? - Yes.
When my mom canceled the trip,
after my mom left,
my sister held the dogs in her arms and told them she missed her mom.
You saw that?
I cried too.
(Do you still think your work is more important?)
Your sister...
talks to the dogs when she needs someone. Who do you have?
(Who do you talk to?)
I play games.
- You play games? - You play games?
After one game, you feel okay.
Do you really think they should understand you?
After hearing what they said,
my heart aches.
Ask your mom.
"Mom, which is more important to you, your work or us?"
Mom.
(Focused)
Which is more important to you, your work or us?
You guys are more important, but...
- "But..." - "But..."
(We're watching.)
"But"!
(Please)
I can't give up my work.
(This is too much.)
(I don't want to watch anymore.)
I have a question for you.
What do your children...
mean to you?
My daughter is very independent.
When I'm having a hard time,
she helps out with house chores a lot.
She is also a much better cook than I am.
Unlike other kids, she can make dishes like jangjorim too.
- She cooks... - Really?
- Jangjorim? - for her brother too.
That's why I started to rely on her too much.
When did you start cooking?
In fifth grade,
I was already cooking.
I can make doenjang jjigae and kimchi jjigae too.
- Doenjang jjigae and kimchi jjigae? - That's incredible.
- I can make egg jangjorim too. - Egg jangjorim?
- I can also make tteokbokki... - Tteokbokki.
- and steamed eggs. - Steamed eggs?
Even my wife can't make it well.
I can make rolled omelette too.
- Rolled omelette? - She's amazing.
I'm sure you do much more than cooking.
After school, all the other kids play.
But when I come home, if there is dirty laundry,
- I do the laundry, hang it, - You do the laundry.
and fold it. When Dad comes home...
- You cook for him. - Yes.
It sounds like you do all the house chores.
Mom says...
it's my job because I'm a girl.
(It's her job because she's a girl.)
(Unbelievable)
Because you're her child, you should understand her,
and because you're a girl, you should do the dishes.
You think your daughter should do the house chores...
because she's a girl.
But you're a grown-up woman. Why don't you do it?
I teach three singing classes a week,
and they're in the evening.
My students wait for me.
Your children wait for you too.
Your daughter waits for you.
But it's my work,
and my daughter is doing so well.
But you have responsibilities as a mom too.
Still, I'm not ashamed.
I work hard...
for my children.
I can give my children the things they want.
Think about it.
It's not a matter of being ashamed.
When your children cry and feel lonely,
how do you feel?
I don't think what I'm doing is...
wrong.
But I'm aware that I'm hurting my children.
It might affect them for a long time.
It might last forever.
They might struggle all their lives.
Something is bothering me.
Your mentality, as a whole, seems to be...
that you do feel bad for your kids,
but it doesn't seem to take priority in your life.
Your daughter seems fine for now,
but you don't know what might happen later in her life...
because you weren't there for her when she needed you.
Your niece is very worried...
about your sister.
How do you feel as Do Yi's aunt?
I always keep an eye on them.
As my sister is busy, I sometimes stop by and clean the place.
It's usually a total mess.
I even clean their bathroom.
I've cooked for my brother-in-law a few times too.
One day, I was making pollack stew for him,
and his mother suddenly showed up.
When she saw me, she said,
"I don't know who is my daughter-in-law anymore",
slammed the door and left.
There were shocking moments like this.
You seem to understand your sister a lot.
You even cried with her.
When do you feel most worried?
One day, after finishing all the house chores,
she went into her room and locked her door.
After a moment, I heard her crying.
What worries me the most is that...
she might become depressed.
I'm very concerned.
Did it make you feel sorry...
and play more games?
- "Yes." - One game is all you need.
Yes.
(He's cute.)
Can you tell us why you cried?
I fell down the stairs at school.
I sprained my leg badly.
It hurt so much, so I called Mom.
She said, "I'm sure it's just a little bruise. You're fine."
(Indifferent)
- That was all. - I don't like the way she talks.
So I went to see a doctor alone.
The doctor said...
the injury was serious, and it'd hurt for a while.
- You needed treatment. - I don't understand.
Even if you couldn't run to her right away...
and take her to a doctor,
you could have comforted her. She's your daughter.
"I'm so sorry. Does it hurt a lot?"
Your daughter got injured.
My daughter is such a tomboy.
- What? - She gets injured a lot.
- All children are like that. - You said she's independent.
She is independent,
but she is very outgoing just like me.
- Did you feel bad? - She injures herself all the time.
I didn't know she got hurt by that.
What if your daughter becomes depressed or something later?
She already has a lot on her mind. She locks her door and cries.
One day, I came home late at night.
She was still up...
and started talking to me.
I didn't take it seriously,
but she told me she had a fight with her friends.
For the first time,
I hugged her and comforted her.
- My heart aches. - How do you want...
your mom to change?
She could do just one performance on weekends...
or ask her boss at the supermarket...
to reduce her hours.
I'm concerned about her health too.
Does she have health problems?
Once, she suddenly got sick...
and was sent to the emergency room.
The next day, she wanted to go to work.
She said she was okay. She has back pains too.
Back pains?
Aren't you worried about your health?
My back problems are so serious...
that I need surgery.
Also, at the supermarket, a box fell...
and broke my fingers.
While wearing a cast, I continued to work.
Once, my nose started to bleed during a singing class.
My blood filled...
- half a sink. - That's a lot.
(The 15-year-old girl is worried about many things.)
What do you want to do with your mom the most?
I want to go shopping with her.
- You want to go shopping. - You want to go shopping.
Instead of taking the dogs to a cafe,
I want to take them to a park with my mom...
so we can catch up.
It doesn't even sound that hard.
Can you do these things for your daughter?
Yes. I'll work less...
and try to spend more time...
with my kids.
I'll do my best...
as your mom too. I'm...
really sorry.
(I'm really sorry.)
(She hears how her mom feels for the first time.)
- Tell her you love her. - And I love you so much.
I love you.
(Let's be happy.)
Your daughter is crying.
Let's ask our guests first. Sang Jun first.
Please work less and spend more time with your kids.
- I think it's a worry. - It's a worry. So Hee.
I definitely think it's a worry.
It's definitely a worry.
Please give your children more love.
You might be surprised,
but I don't think it's a worry. Your children have...
amazing abilities...
that most kids don't.
I'm sure they'll be able to achieve whatever they want.
Right.
- Jong Min. - Yes.
Please vote now.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
"Mom, I Miss You". Please reveal the result.
(The result)
- How many votes did she get? - Did she get more than 100?
Out of 200 votes, how many votes did she get?
- Really? Really? - 100? 158.
(She got 158 votes.)
This story is titled "His Life-Risking Hobby".
There's a husband role.
I think he's similar to you, Jong Min. Please do this.
Your husband?
Not my husband.
Do you think I don't have a preference?
My goodness.
Stop making my heart flutter.
My heart just skipped a beat.
Hello. I am a housewife in her 50s,
who has given up on someone.
The person I have given up on is...
my husband.
My husband has been...
cheating on me for 30 years.
- What? - No way.
"Honey, it's raining today."
"Why don't we go for some makgeolli?"
"No. I have to play soccer."
"The temperature will rise as high as 40 degrees Celsius today."
"I still have to play soccer."
Yes. My husband is obsessed with soccer.
He's having a love affair with soccer.
- "My goodness, it hurts." - "What's going on?"
"I broke my ribs while playing soccer."
My goodness.
"It's all right. I scored a goal."
(My goodness.)
He would be able to live without me,
but he wouldn't be able to live without soccer.
I lived half of my life this way,
but I can't give up on him any longer.
In 2011,
he was diagnosed with a blood cancer.
(In 2011, he was diagnosed with a blood cancer.)
A blood cancer.
"Honey, please stop playing soccer."
"The doctor said you shouldn't tire yourself out with soccer."
"I will play soccer until the day I die and as long as my body permits."
Is soccer more important than his own life?
I am really desperate.
Please stop my husband from loving soccer so much.
All right.
(Please help with my husband's obsession with soccer!)
- His love for soccer is amazing. - June.
Your husband doesn't play soccer, does he?
He doesn't play sports like that.
It's a very difficult situation.
Cheating on her is a more serious problem...
than playing soccer.
What?
Didn't you say he was cheating on her?
- He's cheating on her with soccer. - With soccer.
(He's having a love affair with soccer.)
(She became a scene stealer again.)
She thought he plays soccer and cheats on her with another woman.
That is a serious problem.
Why is everyone clapping?
Why are you clapping?
I heard Min Soo's hobby is to tease June.
(June is really funny.)
We are going to bring her in.
Sang Jun, can you escort her?
- I will do that. - Thank you.
Let's bring her in. Please come on out.
(Who is worried about her husband who is obsessed with soccer?)
(Bang Hye Chun)
(This way, ma'am.)
You have to pull her up.
- From up here. - From up there?
Help her.
- Ma'am, can you please help me? - Byul...
Goodness.
Thank you.
(It's Sang Jun's first time here too.)
How much does your husband play soccer?
Since it's sports, we think it should be good for him.
Does he overdo it?
- We've been married for 34 years. - 34 years.
He's been playing soccer like crazy for 30 years.
He plays soccer 3 to 4 times a week.
He usually...
goes there at 8am,
he comes home at 10am.
That's the soccer club for people in their 60s.
On Sundays, he plays soccer with...
his morning soccer club members and exercises.
He comes home around 9 to 10pm.
- He's outside all day long. - Yes.
He's so obsessed about soccer...
that he has forgotten about his family.
June misunderstood at first.
- Please don't tell her. - We said he was cheating.
And June thought he was cheating on you with another woman.
That's not what's happening, right?
In the past, he did.
(She's very cool.)
I caught him when he was on his way to go fishing.
That's no longer a worry, is it?
- No, it's not. Just the soccer. - He made a mistake.
She's gone past it.
We've gone past it.
When he works the night shift, he goes to work at 3pm.
He has to come home the next day.
But he takes his soccer clothes with him.
He plays soccer after working all night.
(He's determined to play soccer.)
We heard he was diagnosed with a blood cancer.
- How can he play sports? - He...
had a runny nose, so he went to see a doctor.
And he was diagnosed with lymphoma.
(He was diagnosed with lymphoma.)
Even when he was so sick,
he was still mad about soccer.
He doesn't care about his family or his children.
- Did he have a full recovery? - Yes.
After five years, the doctor declared it.
- That he made a full recovery. - Yes.
But...
when he got a health check-up this year,
he had a lot of grape-sized tumors...
in his kidneys.
(His condition is serious, but he still plays soccer.)
Because they are in the kidney, they can't be surgically removed.
Are you worried that his health will...
- deteriorate because of this? - I am worried.
I am always worried that he might collapse.
But soccer isn't...
necessarily bad if you play it moderately.
Right.
I am not saying...
that soccer is bad. I just want him to do it in moderation.
When he plays soccer, he hurts his legs at times.
While playing in rain,
he recently broke his arm and wore a cast.
He broke his ankle once too.
Have you told him about...
how concerned you are?
I told him to play it moderately since he's not too well.
He's not a national soccer player. It's not like he's earning money.
He's wasting money doing it.
Playing soccer is a waste of money.
And you waste your body too.
I guess you waste your body too.
Anyway, he is not a national soccer player.
So he shouldn't push himself too far.
What does he say when you tell him that?
He says he will take care of his own body.
(He says he will take care of his own body.)
- Right. - It's his body.
He says he will take care of his body...
and that I should take care of my body.
It must've been so tough for you to bring the matter here.
It's been unbelievably hard.
I could write more than a hundred books on what I went through.
- That's too exaggerated. - I mean it.
I think...
- 30 is enough. - No.
What do your children say?
- My daughters stop him too. - Daughters.
- Do you have two daughters? - Yes.
They were going to come here,
but they unfortunately couldn't.
Did they not come here?
I thought the person next to him was your daughter.
I wondered how she could remain so calm.
(We are strangers.)
- No. - She's a different person.
Let's meet her husband.
Please welcome him with loud cheers. Hello.
Hello.
Welcome.
(He's got a nice body.)
- He looks healthy. - He got up to greet everyone.
Sunday is the peak time for soccer.
Right. How did you make time for this?
Good thing you mentioned it.
I have a game today from 7:30am to 8pm.
- 7:30pm? - Am.
I played only two games.
I just arrived.
- He's been to the game. - I just arrived.
- You have already played it. - Yes.
I kept calling him.
What is your position when you play soccer?
I am the left wing. I usually use my left arm and left leg.
It's rare. It's hard to find...
someone who uses his left arm and leg.
When he talks about soccer,
- his eyes sparkle. - He's really happy.
Did you see him? Ask him one more thing...
- about soccer. - He must really love it.
Men know about soccer well.
Do you score a lot of goals?
He doesn't know much.
(Jong Min doesn't know much about soccer.)
I don't score goals myself. I cross to mid-goal.
I dribble the ball and cross it to mid-goal.
I make sure our team's striker gets the ball.
Then the striker...
shoots the ball. When he scores a goal,
it's amazing.
(He's excited again.)
Do you like soccer that much?
Even if I will collapse in the field,
I won't stop playing soccer.
Even if I don't eat, I have to play sports.
- I have to play soccer. - He's very passionate.
In a week, do you really play soccer 3 to 4 times?
The official games are on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays.
And I have been part of the Sunday soccer club for 30 years.
We finish a game at noon. After lunch,
people over 60 play another game from 4 to 6pm.
You have another game?
I play that game too.
Each game lasts for an hour.
So that's six hours a day.
We got it.
(He's been living like that for 30 years.)
- We understand your love for it. - Yes.
But you overdo it.
Your wife came here because she's worried about it.
It's not that I am disregarding...
her opinion.
Cancer of the blood is essentially a type of leukemia.
Right.
I was able to withstand and survive through...
chemotherapy...
because of soccer.
- It increased my immunity. - It's because of soccer.
I went to see a doctor recently.
The doctor told me to continue playing soccer.
He said there was no other medicine for me.
He said soccer was medicine for me.
- No. - My goodness.
That's possible.
Wait. Your wife frowned and said it's not true.
The doctor told him to keep playing but in moderation.
In moderation.
But he plays like he's mad.
He neglects his family.
The doctor told you to play soccer in moderation.
Yes. He told me to play soccer in moderation.
(He quickly changes his words.)
He never told me to stop playing.
Your wife said that you neglected your family.
It sounds like she had a lot of heartaches.
Did you neglect your family?
No, I didn't. I slept at home last night.
You slept at home last night.
Earlier, you said that you never ignored...
your wife's words.
What makes you think...
you didn't ignore her words?
I know my body more than anyone.
If I don't play soccer,
I might need to take other medication.
Because I play soccer to balance my body,
I don't need medication.
You didn't play soccer during chemotherapy, did you?
- I am sure he didn't. - I must ask since you are obsessed.
To be honest, I was crazy back then.
(He does more than overexert his body.)
What?
I didn't have any hair,
so I wore a bandana.
- Did you play soccer? - I ran a little...
and collapsed.
Then I stood up, ran a little, and collapsed again.
- I got goosebumps. - My teammates...
dragged me away from the field.
That happened in the past.
- It's unbelievable. - When I think about it,
playing soccer helped me...
overcome chemotherapy.
Ma'am, did you know your husband played soccer...
until he collapsed during chemotherapy?
I knew he played, but I didn't know he collapsed.
When I try to talk to him, he only gets irritated.
He says it's his business. His eyes grow big in anger.
People say that long conversations lead to fights.
Since I am sick myself,
I can't fight against him.
Because my mom had chemotherapy...
before she passed due to liver cancer in 1995,
I know how people become during chemotherapy.
- Tae Gyun... - My mom also had a blood cancer.
It makes no sense...
to exercise so much...
- during chemotherapy. - It doesn't make sense.
- The fact that you did... - People can barely stand.
tells me you have a strong mind.
He spent 48 days in an aseptic room.
That's right. You need to be in an aseptic room.
As soon as he improved and got moved to a regular room,
he took the stairs.
- That's incredible. - He has a strong mind.
He walked 10,000 steps until he collapsed.
- Did he do that at the hospital? - Yes.
He also tried to help other patients...
- and got into fights. - Why?
He asked them to walk with him.
He asked other patients to walk with him.
- He tried to make them work out. - When he said that,
- how did other patients react? - He is incredible.
I bet a patient was resting on his wheelchair...
when he urged him to walk. They probably said, "I don't want that!"
He shouldn't have done that to other patients.
His diet must have been restricted.
I have so much to say about that.
I was told to throw away anything that can cause infection.
- I disinfected the house every day. - That's right.
I also prepared sterile food.
- You did so much for him. - When he went somewhere,
I prepared multi-grain rice that fills you up.
Gosh, talking about this makes me tear up.
My goodness.
Let's stop talking about his stay at the hospital.
- She went through so much. - My goodness.
You did a good job. Sir, you acknowledge that, right?
Yes.
- Not every wife can do this. - That's right.
Even though she was so dedicated,
you made her feel like soccer is more important than her.
- That's right. - You think soccer cured you,
but it was your wife's dedication and your daughters' encouragement...
that cured you.
- It wasn't the soccer. - Seriously.
(They hope he would understand how his family feels.)
Since you keep shedding tears, we will talk about something else.
You keep shedding tears.
Is there anything else your husband is obsessed with?
Fishing.
(It gets worse.)
- Fishing? - Is he obsessed with fishing?
- Fishing can be addictive. - Sir.
He likes fishing as well.
(Why did you tell them that?)
Sir, you are obsessed with everything.
Hold on.
On Mondays and Wednesdays, he doesn't play soccer.
He goes fishing whenever he has time.
- He goes fishing. - He goes fishing or plays soccer.
When I went to the sauna yesterday,
he ran off to a pool hall.
He is crazy about pool, fishing, and soccer.
It sounds like he doesn't spend time...
- with his family. - No, he doesn't.
- He doesn't drink, does he? - He doesn't drink.
He will die if he drinks.
- That's why he doesn't drink. - He used to drink a lot.
- He shouldn't drink. - Does he go to get-togethers?
He does. He still attends get-togethers.
It sounds like your wife is struggling...
because you have hobbies besides soccer...
that keep you from the family.
I play pool...
because my friend runs a pool hall.
I go to the pool hall to avoid the heatwave.
That's why you play pool. How about fishing?
It's the same for fishing.
I am pretty impatient.
Looking at the distant mountains and green plants...
- helps me let go. - It's a way of meditation.
I go fishing to relax my mind.
How about get-togethers?
I can't help but attend the get-togethers.
After playing soccer,
I need to eat with my teammates.
It would be rude to go home right away...
because they are my friends.
That's why you attend them even though you can't drink.
Have you enjoyed your hobbies...
with your wife?
It's a good question.
My wife doesn't like direct sunlight...
that gives her vitamin D.
That's why I can't enjoy my hobbies with her.
That's what you think. Do you really hate sunlight?
- She likes to stay in the shade. - Let me ask her a question.
It's hard to spend time with her.
- Do you really hate sunlight? - If she wants to go,
- I can... - Come on!
Let me ask her a question!
He says you don't like to accompany him to his hobbies.
I can't do that without money.
You need money to play pool...
- and do other things. - I see.
You also need money to go fishing.
- That's right. - It costs 30 to 50 dollars.
If you win, you make donations.
You also need uniforms for all seasons.
- There's a lot of gear too. - There is a picture.
- Those must be his uniforms. - My goodness.
(It's like the wardrobe of a professional soccer player.)
My goodness.
(He spends a lot of money on his hobbies.)
He didn't even use all of those.
- What are those? - He won a lot of trophies.
He says winning trophies brings in money.
(He says winning trophies brings in money.)
It's just a waste of money.
There are two bottles of liquor.
How is the financial situation?
- He spends his time on hobbies... - It's very bad.
I work three jobs.
(She works three jobs.)
- I work 12 hours a day. - You do?
- Yes. - Start from the morning.
On Monday, Wednesday, and Friday mornings,
I make meals for an 18-month-old baby.
On Tuesday and Thursday mornings, I cook for a 75-year-old grandma...
who has colorectal cancer and can't cook.
It takes 4 hours. From 4pm to 8pm,
- I babysit. - You babysit.
Yes.
Do you need to work three jobs...
- to make a living? - Yes.
Even now, my husband can't get the treatments he needs.
We don't have 1,000 dollars to spare.
He even leaves his car at home...
and eats a packed lunch to save money.
My goodness.
(If only he could spend less money on his hobbies...)
You have three hobbies. How do you feel...
when you see her shed tears?
It makes my heart ache.
What kind of the head of the house wouldn't be able to sympathize?
My wife and I will walk side by side...
throughout the remaining time in our lives.
I promise I will spend more time with my wife...
unless I have official matches.
(She isn't convinced.)
We are the only ones who are touched by his words.
His wife must have heard them thousands of times.
She didn't even move.
"Throughout the remaining time in our lives".
That was grand.
(I got caught.)
(I won't get fooled again.)
A friend of his visited the show...
- to share his thoughts. - He looks familiar.
I think you will recognize him. Hello.
- Hello. - It has been a while.
(A soccer club for Tuesdays and Thursdays)
(A soccer club for Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays)
(I am in 13 soccer teams in Korea...)
(and 4 soccer teams abroad.)
(Abroad?)
(He dresses in red 365 days a year.)
[VIU Ver] E378 Hello Counselor "The Need for Healthy Communication" -♥ Ruo Xi ♥-
(He wants to play soccer even after he dies.)
My goodness.
(He is the same.)
What brings you here?
We play soccer together about 3 or 4 times a week.
- Do you play soccer together? - That's right.
Sometimes,
he puts his hands on his knees...
and sinks to the ground.
(He said he overcame cancer thanks to soccer.)
He said he has tumors on his kidneys.
I think he got them because he overexerted himself.
His family must be flustered.
Who do you think is more obsessed with soccer,
you or him?
I am more obsessed with soccer.
When I have a match...
- Did you see that? - He pointed to his friend.
(Embarrassed)
I am only obsessed with soccer,
but he is obsessed with fishing and pool as well.
If we were to come up with a total score, he is above me.
(You guys are the same.)
This morning,
he yelled at me for putting a pain relief patch here.
I would appreciate it if he asks where I am hurting.
He doesn't even buy me medicine when I am sick.
I have to bundle up...
and go outside to buy medicine.
Please tell us about your sickness.
I have had diabetes for 29 years.
That's long.
- It must have been hard. - Despite that,
I used to run a restaurant.
I fell down the stairs one time.
I now have eight pins on my ankle.
- On your ankle? - Yes.
They were supposed to be removed,
but my husband made me work so hard that I missed the timing.
It's too late to remove them now as they're stuck to the bone.
I also had a surgery for herniated disc.
I have four pins on my spine.
It sounds like...
your body went through a lot.
What made you the most upset when you were sick?
When I had a surgery on the palm of my hand,
he came to the hospital all sweaty from a soccer game.
I can't forget that.
(She is upset that he puts soccer before her.)
He should have said some kind words.
- It's not that I hate her. - We know that.
- Why do you think you did that? - What?
Why do you think you did that?
Do you not care to be at home?
I don't know. That seems to be the logical conclusion.
- I am embarrassed. - Okay.
It won't help to make excuses.
That's right.
It makes my heart ache...
to think about how I mistreated her.
What do you want the most...
from your husband?
I wish he would play soccer less.
Since I am free on Saturdays,
I want to go somewhere with my husband.
"I heard this restaurant is nice. I heard this sauna is nice."
"Shall we go there together?" I wish he would do that.
There is nothing else I want.
You want small things in life.
Would you be understanding of pool and fishing...
if he does that on Saturdays?
I don't think I can do that.
- Pool and fishing. - We are in a tight spot.
Do you agree with her?
- Yes, I do. - You think he should give up...
on pool and fishing.
He should definitely give up.
(Stop it.)
He smacked him.
Your family visited the show because you caused them worries.
Were their worries resolved?
Are you the same as you were? Did you get worse?
Because I made a promise to the nation,
I try very hard to keep it.
Even though I can't keep it all the time,
I spend a lot of time with my family...
to make up for it.
I will try to keep him from playing soccer from now on.
Really? Do you promise to do that?
Yes. I think it will be necessary.
How often do you think...
he should play soccer?
Once a week.
- Once a week? - Yes.
How would you feel if that happens?
She is clapping!
(This isn't what I wanted.)
Once a week.
Do you agree with him?
Once or twice a week.
She will let you play soccer twice a week.
- My goodness. - Sir.
(She will let him play soccer twice a week.)
- Twice. - Your friend thinks...
it should be once a week.
However, you wife will be okay with twice a week.
Honey, thank you.
Twice a week is good.
I will keep my promise.
Don't make a promise so easily.
We will give you some time.
She mentioned that...
she gets dejected and scared...
when you glare and sad coldhearted things to her.
She won't look you in the eye.
- You are right. - Please look at your husband.
We will soon give you some time...
to tell your wife about your resolution...
to change from now on.
Please think about what you want to say.
Let's start with Sang Jun. Is it a worry or not?
He overexerts himself.
It goes without saying that I sympathize...
with his wife.
However, I also understand where he is coming from...
because my family is the same.
There are only two daughters.
I often think that my dad...
must be lonely.
I hope his daughters would watch this episode...
and think of a way to change.
Your love for soccer itself isn't the problem.
The fact you put it before your family is the problem...
that worries your wife.
- It's a worry. - I also think it's a worry.
- Playing soccer makes you happy. - Yes.
Spending time with you makes your wife happy.
I see.
It would be nice to be happy together.
Are you saying they should play soccer together?
That's right.
If you think of a hobby you can enjoy together,
I will think of it as well.
- All right. - What is he talking about?
(What is he talking about?)
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Please say a few words to your wife.
- "Honey". - I haven't called her that...
- in 34 years. - What?
How did you address her?
- "Jung Eun's Mom". - You could call her by her name.
You could call her by her name.
That's right.
Honey.
Bang Hye Chun.
I can't imagine...
the pain inside your heart...
that blackened throughout the 34 years...
you lived with me, Park Yong In.
I will keep the promise...
I made on KBS, the nation's broadcasting company.
This evening, I want to sit across from you...
at a small restaurant.
Until the day I live...
Until the day you grow tired of me,
I will follow you.
Please believe me.
Honey, I love you and I will continue to love you.
I love you.
(I love you, Bang Hye Chun.)
(It was a moving speech.)
He is cool.
(It was like a poem.)
- My goodness. - That was heartwarming.
- He has a way with words. - Did his words warm your heart?
(She heard his sincere promise after 34 years.)
I don't know if he will keep his promise.
Please believe him.
I have no choice but to believe him. I will live diligently...
and look after my husband.
My goodness.
How many votes did the worry get? Please show us.
(The result)
"His Life-Risking Hobby".
The last digit is nine.
Out of 200 votes, how many votes did the worry get?
(Let's see.)
159 votes. That's a lot.
Please give them a round of applause.
Thank you.
(Please play soccer the healthy way.)
"The Horrible Newlywed Life".
Hello, I am a woman who got married less than a year ago.
I met a husband who is tall and handsome...
and gave birth to a strong son.
Am I happy? Not at all.
I want to end this horrible newlywed life.
When I dated my husband, he said,
"I want to hurry up and marry you."
Marry, marry, marry, marry.
He continuously talked about how much he wanted to get married.
"Honey, I am pregnant."
"What? Really?"
"What should we do? Why don't you get an abortion?"
(The atmosphere turns cold.)
When I got pregnant,
he suddenly transformed.
After many struggles, we got married, and I gave birth.
"How do I look? I am wearing makeup today."
"Gosh, why would you wear makeup?"
"What's the point of a mom getting dressed up?"
"Why don't we go on a date?"
"Forget it. I am tired."
I don't even remember the last time I held his hand.
"If you were going to be this way, why did you marry me?"
"Let's get a divorce."
"Gosh, what has gotten into you this time?"
"All right. I am sorry. I am sorry. Are you satisfied?"
Do I need to stay married even though he treats me this way?
Please listen to my worry.
(Please listen to my worry.)
The worry itself is serious,
but Dong Yeob's low-pitched voice...
makes it seem more serious.
(Dark)
I can sympathize...
because my husband was like a baby when we were newlyweds...
when I think about it now.
Don't you fight more when you are newlyweds?
- That's right. - You fight more.
- We were more immature. - That's right.
When you told Choi Min Soo that you are pregnant,
how did he react?
"Honey, I am pregnant."
(How did Choi Min Soo react?)
He bragged about himself.
My goodness.
(I am the best.)
I get it.
- Why did he brag about himself? - I get it.
Tell me. Why did he brag about himself?
It was fascinating.
When I told him that I am pregnant,
he went, "See?"
"I told you I could get you pregnant."
(I told you I could get you pregnant.)
- That's how he bragged. - How unusual!
How about you, Byul?
I wasn't ready.
We succeeded right away,
and I cried a little.
My husband was really upset.
- It was the other way around. - You might want to enjoy...
- being newlyweds. - That's right.
I told my wife first.
- Did you tell her she is pregnant? - "You are pregnant."
(You are pregnant.)
(Dazed)
(Dong Yeob, you are ridiculous.)
You are ridiculous.
What did your wife say?
"You're pregnant now."
(You're pregnant now.)
Let's meet our guest.
Please escort her, Sang Jun.
(Who is the guest that's unlucky because her husband changed?)
(Kim Soo Yoon)
As we read your story,
the air suddenly became cold.
Your husband changed after you got pregnant?
Yes. Before we started dating, he said he couldn't wait...
- to get married. - Before dating?
- Yes. - Before marriage.
Before the marriage, when you were dating.
- When you were dating. - When you were dating.
He often visited my house and said...
- he wanted to get married. - He begged you.
When I told him I'm pregnant,
he said it wasn't acceptable. He wanted to get rid of it.
- What? - He said he'll tell my parents.
He said he wants to have a baby after we get married.
It didn't seem right.
We are getting married, and we are going to have a baby anyway.
I said, "What's wrong about having the baby first?"
He said he's not ready.
We often had a fight because of it.
I even fainted while crying and was transported to ICU.
My parents agreed in the end, and we got married in February.
- I gave birth in June. - You gave birth.
For how long did you date?
- How long before you married? - We met last summer.
I got pregnant in three months.
- It was fast. - It's not even a year.
If you weren't ready,
your husband was probably in a rush.
- Jong Min doesn't know anything. - What?
You should know this if you want to get married.
"Can you give birth in three months?"
- He just asked me. - Goodness.
What are you talking about?
- 4 months? - Give birth in 4 months?
- Goodness. - It's 10 months.
- Goodness. - I know.
You can't give birth in three months.
Who's taking care of the baby today?
I've been staying at my parents' house since May.
My mother's babysitting right now.
My husband stops by after work to see the baby.
We don't communicate at all.
He leaves after seeing the baby.
When I was staying in the postnatal care center,
- I was in so much pain. - Of course.
I couldn't even move because my pelvis was tilted.
When I asked him for something, he said he was tired from work.
He told me to get it myself.
- In the postnatal care center? - Yes. He got upset.
It was the World Cup season.
He only lied down and watched soccer.
Soccer is the problem for everything today.
Seriously.
I'm glad you're here. Immature couples...
go straight to the court even for a small problem.
You should stop by here.
That's right. You should stop by.
Stop by here first.
Let's meet her husband and find out how he feels.
- Hello. - Hello.
He looks like a nice person.
Is everything your wife said true?
- Some of it is true, - I see.
but when I was taking time off work,
I was helping my dad out and only received a little bit of money.
I wasn't ready financially.
I was flustered to have a baby.
He was scared. Right.
I was scared.
Didn't you think you could get pregnant?
- No. - If you were planning...
He should've expected it.
It's not your wife's fault that she got pregnant.
- You should've used protection. - Right.
- You should've used a condom... - Right.
or talked to your wife about the plan.
You never talked about it?
We went on a trip to Jeonju.
You're giving us the detail.
- Right. - And?
I asked her.
It was our first trip.
I asked her if it's okay.
- If it's safe. - Then...
She said it was okay.
So...
(What are you doing?)
(Looking far)
I understand that it is scary...
- for you. - Right.
I understand how you feel,
but I want to know how you said it.
The way he said it.
Did you tell her to abort it straight up?
Did he say it straight up?
At the time...
He's sorry.
(He can't continue talking.)
"I don't think we should have a baby now."
"Can we get an abortion?" That's what I said.
Is that what he said?
I was scared but also amazed.
I was planning on keeping it, so I told my friends.
My friends were happy for me.
They were becoming aunts.
When I told my husband,
he froze. He didn't say a word.
It didn't seem right. I asked him if he has anything to say.
Then he said,
"Get an abortion tomorrow..."
"and have the baby after we get married."
(He shouldn't have said it.)
You could say that at first,
but you decided to keep the baby.
You could've been nice to your wife.
I got a new job at the time.
I was very tired.
It was also the World Cup season.
- I see. - Yes.
I tried my best and got her whatever she wanted to drink.
I asked her if she ate something.
I asked her if she wanted anything.
- I tried my best. - You tried your best.
I was most disappointed when I asked him for 50 dollars...
to make baby clothes.
He asked me why I was making it when our child wasn't even born yet.
He told me to buy it with my own money.
After I gave birth, I needed a lot of baby stuff.
When I asked him to buy something, he always said he had no money.
He always says he has no money,
but when I visit my in-law's house, he's always assembling a computer.
He buys new parts, but he says he has no money.
He keeps spending money and buys electronic cigarettes.
My wife always wants new stuff.
My aunt and sister gave her...
the bottle sterilizer.
When she was in the postnatal care center,
she saw a newer version of the sterilizer,
and she wanted to get it.
At the time, I was struggling financially.
It was a thoughtless consumption.
I said what's the point of buying it.
- How much are the computer parts? - I didn't see...
How about electronic cigarettes?
Based on what your wife said, the sterilizer isn't the problem.
What did you buy for your wife and the baby?
(What did you buy for your wife and the baby?)
I checked his cellphone before.
(What?)
(Did we hear that right?)
I'm sorry I checked it without his permission.
He used to spend a lot of money on his ex.
He even paid 1,200 dollars for a Pilates class for her.
He spent a lot of money on her.
He should've erased it.
- But... - Why would you keep it?
He never say anything nice to me.
He never said good job. My friend bought flowers and cake...
when I gave birth and said I did a good job.
(She bursts into tears.)
Let's hear from their friends first and think about it.
I'm on his wife's side.
- Really? - Yes.
When we meet up for a trip,
they team up together since they're a couple.
If she makes a mistake, he doesn't look good.
If we go to a cafe or a restaurant,
He should get her a napkin or food...
since they're married.
- Right. - He doesn't do that.
He was never good at saying...
thank you or showing gratitude.
On the other hand, he's good at expressing...
when he's angry or when he dislikes something.
What?
He's good at expressing negative feelings.
(It's frustrating.)
However, his wife tends to not trust him.
I notice that he can never let go of his phone.
She constantly calls him and texts him.
They have a video call, and he sends her pictures.
As I said before, he can't hide his feelings.
It's clear on his face.
It ruins the mood, and when it gets really bad,
we end up calling it a day and going home.
We just decide to go home.
What's your opinion about what his friend said?
I tend not to trust them.
Are you worried about him hanging out with other women?
That's not it.
He hurt me at the beginning of our relationship.
He also goes off the grid when he meets his friends.
He never contacts me.
(These two people have no trust.)
I was against them getting married.
Because they never got along since they started dating.
They have different hobbies. They kept having fights.
Also, she never got enough love from her husband.
She has low self-esteem.
She recently had a high fever...
after giving birth.
She went to the ICU. I met her husband there.
Rather than worrying about her,
he seemed like he hated the fact he had to come.
- Even to your eye? - Yes.
Based on what I saw,
I think that might be hard...
- for her husband too. - Why?
My friend... For example,
my friend is texting someone,
and her husband asks her whom she's texting.
Instead of telling him she's texting her friend,
she says, "Why? Do you not trust me?"
She asked if he didn't trust her.
She got angry at him.
I tend to speak quite bluntly too.
I want him to listen to me when I tell him once,
but he always makes me repeat myself many times.
Whenever we fight, she runs away from home.
She spent a night alone in a motel.
She was pregnant back then,
so I was really worried about her.
I asked where she was so many times...
via texts.
But she didn't tell me where she was.
She just said she would spend the night where she was.
That's all she told me.
I was under a lot of stress and suffering from depression.
So I ran away from home.
To be honest, I wanted him to worry about me and came to find me.
However, he went out to have a drink with his friend...
and didn't call me.
- Is that true? - I can explain.
I was stressed out because I couldn't get hold of her.
I needed to relieve stress.
I bought an electronic cigarette, but the battery inside of it...
was dented when it was delivered.
I was going to put it in and have a smoke in my car.
She told me not to smoke saying it could explode.
She said it was dangerous for our baby too.
But I said it wasn't dangerous, and so I could smoke.
We were arguing while I was driving.
We were on the road with many other cars.
She tried to get out of the car in the middle of the road.
I thought it was dangerous, and it could explode.
I said I was afraid to be in the car with him.
I asked him to drop me off, so I could get a taxi.
He pushed me telling me to stay in the car.
He tried to crash into the car in front of us...
and threatened to kill me.
- He threatened to kill you? - Yes.
He crossed the line threatening to kill me.
- Both of them have a bad temper. - That's right.
- They're both so hot-tempered. - Exactly.
It hasn't even been 100 days since your baby was born,
but you and your wife talk about a divorce already.
Are you upset about it? Or...
When she first said she wanted a divorce,
I was very upset. Because...
she asks for a divorce even when we argue...
over petty things.
- Your wife does? - Yes.
So I...
I know I shouldn't have acted like that,
but honestly, I was that stressed back then.
When you're pregnant, you need to be taken care of.
Whenever I said I was hungry, he said he wasn't hungry.
And then he told me to stop eating and swore at me.
So whenever he said something like that,
did you say, "What? You're not hungry? I want a divorce."
Did you ask him for a divorce?
- That's why I had pent up anger. - I'm sure that's not the case.
- You kept anger pent up inside? - Yes.
The reason I decided to divorce him...
is because he often speaks disrespectfully to me.
I was resting in the postnatal care center.
My husband got bored and started looking at social media sites.
Then he found my photo taken before we got married.
Women usually wear revealing clothes on the beach.
He saw the photo and said something really harsh.
(What on earth did he say?)
- What did he say? - That I looked like a prostitute.
Gosh. Seriously.
(You look like a prostitute.)
Gosh. Seriously.
He crossed the line.
- It hurt my feelings. - I see.
He should've known better.
- He wasn't joking? - No.
(I was really hurt back then.)
If he had said my clothes were revealing,
- I wouldn't have been hurt. - Right.
- "This is too revealing." - Wait.
Regardless of that,
why would you look at each other's phones, look into their exes,
and see where they went with their friends?
Why would you do that?
Did you want to get back at her?
That's one of the reasons.
Before that happened,
she showed me a photo of herself and her ex-boyfriend.
So I asked her why she hadn't deleted that photo.
I didn't understand her, and I got angry.
- What are you guys doing? - I think...
(It ends in a tie.)
As I said before,
a mature person should marry a mature person,
and an immature person should marry an immature person.
If a mature person marries an immature person,
only the mature one would suffer.
That's what I think about marriage.
I believe it's still hopeful...
because they're both immature.
(They're both immature.)
- That's a perfect conclusion. - Exactly.
I don't think only one of them is suffering greatly.
- In the end, you married him. - Yes.
In the process of getting married,
you went through many obstacles and were looked down on,
and you became pent up with anger and resentment towards him.
I kept negative feelings pent up,
which caused depression. It's been really hard.
(I've been depressed and distressed because of my pent-up feelings.)
You know that what you did to your wife in the past...
was wrong, right?
I believe you should sincerely apologize to her...
for what you did at least once.
(Shouldn't you apologize for what you did?)
I didn't say harsh things...
that hurt your feelings...
because I hated you.
I'm actually very fond of you and deeply in love with you.
It was a mistake.
I promise I'll be nicer to you.
I'm very sorry.
In fact, there were many times...
when he apologized halfheartedly after he got angry at me.
He always says he's sorry.
I want him to understand how I feel before apologizing,
- but he ties to end the situation. - I understand.
Your wife seems to think...
that you stopped loving her...
when she got pregnant. That your feelings towards her changed.
Do you still love your wife?
(Do you still love your wife?)
I still care for her deeply.
- Really? - Yes.
(I still care for her deeply.)
- That's all that matters. - Right.
- You don't have to worry. - I agree with you.
- Me too. - From my perspective,
if he had stopped loving her...
when he heard about her pregnancy,
- he would've ended... - He wouldn't have married her.
- He wouldn't have married her. - Right.
Seeing that he's been...
making efforts to make this marriage work,
I believe there's hope.
- And your friends... - They'll be on your side.
- were excited about the news. - They congratulated her.
But your husband didn't react as enthusiastic as they did.
- He had to take care of you. - That's right.
Your friends wouldn't take care of you.
- That's right. - That's your husband's job.
- They get to play aunt to your kid. - Exactly.
- She's right. - One more thing.
I know you want him to do as you ask at once.
- That won't happen. - He'll never do that.
That's not how marriage works.
It took me 25 years to learn this.
I realized that marriage is a bad thing,
and people should not live together.
- That's right. - That's how hard...
marriage is.
That's realistic advice.
I want to tell her something.
Whenever your husband doesn't meet your expectation,
you will be angry.
But you have to lower your standards.
If he doesn't reach this level that you want,
- his effort means nothing to you. - That's right.
So your husband always feels resentful, and you're always angry.
Haha has such a good wife.
You must've been upset about many things in marriage,
but I'm sure there were things about your wife that made you happy.
When we took a photo with our baby,
I realized what a family truly means.
And that made me very happy.
However...
- He also became... - Oh, dear.
- emotional. - My goodness.
Gosh. Why would you get teary?
- Tears... - I understand him.
Tears don't come out just because you want them to.
- My goodness. - It breaks my heart.
Say something to your husband.
- I'm sorry for saying harsh things. - Good.
I want you to listen to me when I talk to you...
and pay more attention to our baby.
I also want you to pay more attention to me.
Do you think it's a worry or not?
Well... I...
(Did he press it?)
- You don't think it's a worry. - I do.
Oh, I see.
(Jong Min thinks it's a worry.)
He's good at pantomimes.
This is one of the reasons why...
I haven't gotten married yet.
You fight and compete against your partner.
When you enjoy the feeling of victory,
- your partner is hurt. - That's right.
You're supposed to love each other and stick together.
It shouldn't be competition or fight.
- I see hope, so I won't press it. - You don't think it's a worry.
If the two of you use your energy...
to take care of your baby instead of arguing,
I think you can make your family...
- stable and happy. - That's right.
I think the two of you should set up rules...
for specific matters.
I believe they can resolve the problem.
So I don't think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry from the wife's perspective,
please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
Say a word to your wife.
We have many years ahead of us.
I hope we can live together happily with our baby...
without fighting too often. I want us to be happy.
Pleas show us the result.
The current winner got 159 votes.
Is it over 100?
(How many people empathize with the wife's feelings?)
(88 votes)
As a result, "His Life-Risking Hobby"...
is this week's winner.
The winner will receive prize money.
- Congratulations. - Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
We'll counsel you!
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